Would you hire an artificial intelligence dating concierge?
BlackTechLogy: One of the most overlooked moments on 'Diarra from Detroit' was the post-sex dating reality
Writer’s note: The following post was originally published on May 14, 2024 in Shamontiel’s now-defunct We Need To Talk Substack series. WNTT posts have been merged into her remaining Substack accounts.
“Diarra from Detroit” is probably going to stay in my top five streaming shows by the end of 2024. The eighth episode was “meh” (minus the Morris Chestnut bathtub scene), but the first seven were a delight. This show is hilarious, nail-biting, juicy and unapologetically refuses to code-switch. And one of the most overlooked scenes in all eight episodes of Season 1 was Diarra suggesting that she and her date, Chris, act like they were already on their third date to get past all the first date awkwardness.
I thought that sounded like an interesting idea, specifically when Chris said he possibly knew her “biblically” by that point. That tells you what kinda timeline he was on in the dating world. However, Ava and Keyshawn were far more on point for what actually happens in the dating world post-”biblical” dating, with a level of honesty that would’ve cut Date 1 short. (Been there. This guy told me he was in trouble for stealing TVs 24 hours later and was baffled when I called it quits. Be a TV thief on your own time, not mine.)
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Bumble brings up AI dating concierges
All of these dating tales led me to an interesting topic in technology: an artificial intelligence (AI) dating concierge, a better way to vet the date ahead of time than online dating apps try to. Although I’ve never been on Bumble outside of writing consumer-dominant reviews for an online dating series, it’s interesting to hear why Whitney Wolfe Herd, founder of the dating app Bumble, thinks an AI dating concierge should be the new wave. (And after one Moscow man met his wife using ChatGPT, there may be something to this more-focused tech dating talk.)
According to Yahoo! Lifestyle, a Norton study confirmed that more than half of Australian (58%) online daters are all about having a dating coach.
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Additionally, a Moscow-based man developed an artificial dating assistant program using the AI platform ChatGPT. The program chatted with over 5000 women on his behalf and helped him schedule over 100 dates before he was eventually matched with his now wife, Gizmodo reported. And out of the 5,239 women that the ChatGPT-based program talked to from 2021-22 on his behalf, he then moved in with a special someone in 2023 who is now his wife in 2024.
“If you want to get really out there, there is a world where your [AI] dating concierge could go and date for you with other dating concierges,” Bumble's new CEO Lidiane Jones told NDTV World.
The technology would vet all the people in your city and narrow down which ones you should actually date. On the surface, this sounds like the same lame tactics of online dating apps that I ran into while trying to write reviews for a client. I couldn’t get to all the pricing and details about the app without swiping on a few people or interacting with profiles. I took so many personality and dating quizzes to the point I lost count. And the apps were always pairing me with people I was neither physically nor mentally interested in, but society would say, “You two should date.”
The difference here is that your dating concierge would date other dating concierges to narrow down compatibility.