Lisa Talmadge, disrespecting Black America’s mom on Mother’s Day will not be tolerated
Why I have hesitant support of white feminists
I retired my Feminism Cape for All a few years ago. I struggled to keep it tied, even as a kid when I knew how the relationship between Frederick Douglass and Susan B. Anthony soured. When racism and sexism are challenged at the same time, black women usually have to pick a side.
On the surface, feminism is the belief that one gender is equal to another and should be treated as such. But I have found more often than not that too many feminist groups, and those who swear they’re all about equality, have a footnote on their equality banter. And that footnote almost always ends up with a boot on the neck of black women.
This is not a fight I go looking for; it just keeps showing up at my doorstep. I know what it’s like to see how quickly (some) white women will turn on you the millisecond one of their own sheds a tear — even over a miscommunication. I’ve had the white friend who had “never used the n-word” in her life use it the millisecond liquor was involved, and the white friend who managed to see positive black professionals around her and still believe all we do is shoot and sell drugs.
I recall the graphic designer I was nagged into hanging out with for after-work “happy hour” drinks. After one drink, she immediately started complaining about black women attacking her — and again, liquor was involved. Even outside of work, I shook my head at a writer who reminded me of Vice President’s Kamala Harris identity as an Indian woman while ignoring the Jamaican side.
I can’t help but notice the irony in white women talking about “how men [throughout] history used all of their effort just to [disqualify] women” on shows like “The Circle,” but still smooth ignore the other -ism. I don’t have to go into the historical complications of slaveowners’ wives having zip zero problems with the way African women were treated (read: raped, abused, kidnapped, tortured, sold, forced to have biracial babies but act like no one knew they were biracial). You should know those by now.
Hell, even if we’re not talking about a Netflix reality show, we can look no further than pay rates and how white women made significant job gains versus black (and Latina) women during the coronavirus outbreak. But I keep burying these scenarios in the back of my mind, struggling like a motherfather to clutch onto the sisterhood cape. Like clockwork, it doesn’t take long for someone else to prove why this is easier said than done.
Why was Phylicia Rashad a target of Lisa Talmadge?
In the latest example, here comes @LisaTalmadge to decide to throw Phylicia Rashad under the bus on Mother’s Day — and for the most insanely unnecessary and unproven reason, considering there are absolutely no reports nor evidence nor even updated news on the Bill Cosby sexual assault allegations.