My side-eyed views at former Republicans, 'recovering' Republicans and Black Republicans
Why I'm not buying into the argument that all women will save America from Trump
About five years ago, I wrote a post about a dark-skinned man with locks, who was standing near Sasha Obama. I was still on Twitter (since 2008) at the time, and that post took off immediately, with majority of the responses thanking me for coming to his defense. I don’t know what made me bring it up to a relative, but I casually chatted about the photograph that inspired that post.
And I watched her eyes roll and her facial expression change, telling me I shouldn’t have written the post to begin with and I was bringing “too much” attention to him. According to her, the guy with the locks “probably wasn’t even offended” by all the insults about his physical appearance. I told her if I see black men being attacked for no reason other than existing, I’m always going to speak up. She brushed me off as “being too militant.”
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This wasn’t the first time that me and this relative (a Black woman) were at odds on microaggressions and racism. When we were watching Michelle Williams’ reality show, there was an encounter at the airport where one-third of Destiny’s Child was questioned for having a first-class ticket. I scowled at the screen, annoyed that anybody would think she wouldn’t be entitled to be sitting on the front of the plane.
And that same relative said it was “no big deal” and that Michelle was overreacting to a “simple question.” I pointed out how no one else was challenged about sitting in first class, and she said it was fine to just ask one person. I gritted my teeth, knowing full well this was incorrect, specifically because I had a short-lived job one summer as a TSA agent for O’Hare Airport. Singling out one person could land you in court. The only exception is TSA agents following the Lotto system, where they check bags and tickets at random — and not based on skin complexion.
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She’s got this weird disgust for Beyonce that I’ll never understand and responded with “mmph” when “Brown Skin Girls” came out. As a reluctant member of the Beyhive member who knows I’m snippy when people get too flippant about this R&B singer, I didn’t even touch that noise she made. I wasn’t in the mood to argue. I just kept playing the song repeatedly in front of her.
I finally threw in the towel after complaining about the Mexican spouse of a former friend. The friend’s husband declared that all Mexicans coming to the U.S. are criminals. Baffled at his comment, I pointed out that he (also Mexican) came here illegally. His reply? He was “the exception.” I made the mistake of repeating this conversation to the anti-Michelle, anti-locks relative. I pointed out how ignorant it was to make a sweeping statement about an entire group of people. Pregnant pause. I asked her if she agreed.
And she responded by saying she thinks Black people are more violent than Mexicans. I pointed out that statistically any race of people is more likely to commit a crime against someone of the same race. Her counterpoint was to say she’s harder on Black people because she’s Black. At that moment, I daydreamed about putting her in the headlock but instead I disconnected the call.
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The irony is this is now the same woman who constantly complains about Donald Trump and is also in the 92% of Black women who didn’t vote for him. But when she told me she wasn’t voting for Trump, I asked her what’s the difference between her and him. I pointed out a bunch of comments she’s made before he ran for office and comments he’s made. I bluntly stated, “You two are in alignment politically, so why do you even bother criticizing him? It seems like you feel the same way about Black people as he does.”
And she couldn’t figure out how to defend multiple past comments and distance herself from Trump. I was looking into the eyes of a Black Republican who didn’t seem to realize she was just that. And that’s exactly how I feel about watching Candace Owens, Michael Steele and any other Black Republican who is coddling up to Black voters now as if racism was created by Trump.
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White women, please talk to the 53% who voted for Trump instead of the 92% of Black women who didn’t
Lately, I’ve been running into a lot of white women politically befriending Black women, bringing up how women are the only ones who will stand up to Trump. I already think this point is inaccurate, especially considering Governor J.B. Pritzker has been vocally opposed to Trump so much that Illinois is currently being sued for not bowing down to him and being a sanctuary city. Then, there’s Senator Sheldon Whitehouse, who has released countless videos opposing the Trump administration and talking about how much he disagrees with Vladimir Putin. And California Rep. Eric Swalwell ran down all the places that Trump is banned like he was reading the lyrics from DMX’s “What Ya Want.”
There’s no doubt that Rep. Jasmine Crockett is doing the world a favor by being vocal and informative. Same with Maine Governor Janet Mills. But what bothers me about the “women saving us” comment is it’s putting rose-colored glasses on and acting like white women didn’t vote for Trump (53% versus 46% for Harris). And they did it twice — in 2016, against another white woman, and doubled down in 2024 against a Black and Asian woman. I can’t comprehend the self-hatred from any woman.